MUSLIMMEN ARE POLYGAMISTS:-
Muslims are often accused of being promiscuous because polygamy is legal in
Islaam.
1. Islaam did not introduce polygamy. Unrestricted polygamy practiced in most human
societies throughout the world in every age. Islaam regulated polygamy by limiting
the number of wives and establishing responsibility in its practice.
2. Monogamy of the West inherited from Greece and Rome where men were restricted
by law to one wife but were free to have as many mistresses among the majority slave
population as they wished. In the West today, most married men have extramarital
relations with mistresses, girlfriends and prostitutes. Consequently the Western claim
to monogamy is false.
3. Monogamy illogical. If a man wishes to have a second wife whom he takes care of
and whose children carry his name and he provides for he is considered a criminal,
bigamist, who may be sentenced to years in jail. However, if he has numerous
mistresses and illegitimate children his relation is considered legal.
4. Men created polygamous because of a need in human society. There is normally a
surplus of women in most human societies.1 The surplus is a result of men dying in
wars, violent crimes and women outliving men.2 The upsurge in homosexuality
further increases the problem. If systems do not cater to the need of surplus women it
will result in corruption in society. Example, Germany after World War II, when
suggestions to legalize polygamy were rejected by the Church. Resulting in the
legalization of prostitution. German prostitutes are considered as workers like any
other profession. They receive health benefits and pay taxes like any other citizen.
Furthermore, the rate of marriage has been steadily declining as each succeeding
generation finds the institution of marriage more and more irrelevant.
5. Western anthropologists argue that polygamy is a genetic trait by which the strongest
genes of the generation are passed on. Example, the lion king, the strongest of the
pack, monopolizes the females thereby insuring that the next generation of lion cubs
will be his offspring.
6. Institutional polygamy prevents the spread of diseases like Herpes and AIDS. Such
venereal diseases spread in promiscuous societies where extra-marital affairs abound.
1 Russia: 46.1% male to 53.9% female; UK: 48.6% male to 51.5% female; USA: 48.8% male to 51.2%
female; Brazil: 49.7% male to 50.27% female (The New Encyclopaedia Britannica, vol. 17, pp. 34, 270,
244). Exceptions in China and India due to wide-spread infanticide on a national scale.
2 According to the Center for Health Statistics, American women today can expect to live to be 77.9 years
old, while men can only expect to live to 70.3.
7. Polygamy protects the interests of women and children in society. Men, in Western
society make the laws. They prefer to keep polygamy illegal because it absolves them
of responsibility. Legalized polygamy would require them to spend on their additional
wives and their offspring. Monogamy allows them to enjoy extra-marital affairs
without economic consequence.
8. Only a minority will practice polygamy in Muslim society. In spite of polygamy
being legal in Muslim countries, only 10-15% of Muslims in these countries practice
polygamy. Although the majority of men would like to have more than one wife, they
cannot afford the expense of maintaining more than one family. Even those who are
financially capable of looking after additional families are often reluctant due to the
psychological burdens of handling more than one wife. The family problems and
marital disputes are multiplied in plural marriages.
9. Conditions have been added for polygamy in many Muslim countries. For example,
in Egypt, the permission of the first wife must first be obtained. This and similar
conditions are a result of colonial domination. No woman in her right mind will give
her husband permission to take a second wife. Such a condition, in fact, negates the
permission given by God in the Qur’aan.
10. Others have accepted polygamy on condition that it not be for “lust”. That is, if the
wife is ill, or unable to bear children, or unable to fulfill the husband’s sexual needs,
etc., taking a second wife is acceptable. Otherwise it becomes “lust” on the husband’s
part and is consequently not acceptable. The reality is that “lust” was involved in the
marriage of the first wife. Why is it acceptable in the case of the first and not the
second? As has already been pointed out, men are polygamous by nature. To try to
curb it by such conditions will only lead to corruption in society.
11. Feminists may object to this male right by insisting that women should also be able
to practice polygamy. However, a woman marrying four husbands would only
increase the problem of surplus women. Furthermore, no child would accept his or
her mother identifying the father by the “eeny meeny miney mo” method.
12. The question which remains is, “If God is good and wishes good for His creatures,
why did he legislate something which would be harmful to most women?” Divine
legislation looks at the society as a whole seeking to maximize benefit. If a certain
legislation benefits the majority of the society and causes some emotional harm to a
minority, the general welfare of society is given precedence.
ARRANGEDMARRIAGES:-
Muslims are often accused of forcing their daughters into marriage
1. Islamic law requires that females must give their permission before they are married.
Prophet Muhammad (r) said, “The permission of virgins should be taken and their
silence is their consent. ” On one occasion a woman came to the Prophet (r) and
informed him that her father had married her off without her permission. He offered
to annul her marriage, however, she did not accept his offer saying that she only
wanted to confirm her right. A previously married woman has the right to choose for
herself.
2. Muslims are encouraged to help their children find suitable marital partners since
males and females are raised separately in society. Women are spared having to look
for their own mates.
3. From a Western perspective, where teenagers are often required to leave home and
go out to work and look after themselves, it would seem ludicrous for parents to later
on suggest whom they should marry.
4. It has become a practice among some Muslims to force their children to marry their
cousins. For Muslims in the West it becomes a means to help their family members
also reach the West. Consequently, there have been a number of cases reported in the
newspapers in England of the Home Office rescuing Muslim girls from forced
marriages at the airport. There are also many Muslim girls who have run away from
home rather than be forced to marry relatives in villages in Pakistan or India. Such
girls are being given new identities by police authorities and will likely lose their
Islaam in the process.
MUSLIMWOMENCANNOT MARRY THEMSELVES:-
The Muslim woman is considered oppressed since she must have her father􀂶s
permission to get married.
1. Islaamic law requires the permission of a woman’s father for her marriage to be valid.
Prophet Muhammad (r) was reported to have said, “The marriage of any woman who
marries herself without her guardianô€‚¶s consent is invalid.”
2. From a Western perspective in which teenagers are required to leave home and fend
for themselves, it would seem unthinkable that the father’s permission would be
needed for marriage.
3. The Muslim woman lives a sheltered life. She is not used to dealing with men outside
her blood relatives whom she cannot marry (mahaarim). The father will be more
capable of judging the young man objectively. The young woman could easily be
fooled or sweet-talked as she tends to be more emotional in her judgement.
4. If the guardian refuses proposals for illegitimate reasons like the persons tribe, race,
color, status, the young lady has the right to seek redress from the court. If he judge
concludes that the father is wrongfully preventing his daughter from marriage, he
may take the guardianship from the father and act as the girls guardian.
PALYGAMY:-
Muslims are often accused of being promiscuous because polygamy is legal in
Islaam.
1. Islaam did not introduce polygamy. Unrestricted polygamy practiced in most human
societies throughout the world in every age. Islaam regulated polygamy by limiting
the number of wives and establishing responsibility in its practice.
2. Monogamy of the West inherited from Greece and Rome where men were restricted
by law to one wife but were free to have as many mistresses among the majority slave
population as they wished. In the West today, most married men have extramarital
relations with mistresses, girlfriends and prostitutes. Consequently the Western claim
to monogamy is false.
3. Monogamy illogical. If a man wishes to have a second wife whom he takes care of
and whose children carry his name and he provides for he is considered a criminal,
bigamist, who may be sentenced to years in jail. However, if he has numerous
mistresses and illegitimate children his relation is considered legal.
4. Men created polygamous because of a need in human society. There is normally a
surplus of women in most human societies.1 The surplus is a result of men dying in
wars, violent crimes and women outliving men.2 The upsurge in homosexuality
further increases the problem. If systems do not cater to the need of surplus women it
will result in corruption in society. Example, Germany after World War II, when
suggestions to legalize polygamy were rejected by the Church. Resulting in the
legalization of prostitution. German prostitutes are considered as workers like any
other profession. They receive health benefits and pay taxes like any other citizen.
Furthermore, the rate of marriage has been steadily declining as each succeeding
generation finds the institution of marriage more and more irrelevant.
5. Western anthropologists argue that polygamy is a genetic trait by which the strongest
genes of the generation are passed on. Example, the lion king, the strongest of the
pack, monopolizes the females thereby insuring that the next generation of lion cubs
will be his offspring.
6. Institutional polygamy prevents the spread of diseases like Herpes and AIDS. Such
venereal diseases spread in promiscuous societies where extra-marital affairs abound.
1 Russia: 46.1% male to 53.9% female; UK: 48.6% male to 51.5% female; USA: 48.8% male to 51.2%
female; Brazil: 49.7% male to 50.27% female (The New Encyclopaedia Britannica, vol. 17, pp. 34, 270,
244). Exceptions in China and India due to wide-spread infanticide on a national scale.
2 According to the Center for Health Statistics, American women today can expect to live to be 77.9 years
old, while men can only expect to live to 70.3.
7. Polygamy protects the interests of women and children in society. Men, in Western
society make the laws. They prefer to keep polygamy illegal because it absolves them
of responsibility. Legalized polygamy would require them to spend on their additional
wives and their offspring. Monogamy allows them to enjoy extra-marital affairs
without economic consequence.
8. Only a minority will practice polygamy in Muslim society. In spite of polygamy
being legal in Muslim countries, only 10-15% of Muslims in these countries practice
polygamy. Although the majority of men would like to have more than one wife, they
cannot afford the expense of maintaining more than one family. Even those who are
financially capable of looking after additional families are often reluctant due to the
psychological burdens of handling more than one wife. The family problems and
marital disputes are multiplied in plural marriages.
9. Conditions have been added for polygamy in many Muslim countries. For example,
in Egypt, the permission of the first wife must first be obtained. This and similar
conditions are a result of colonial domination. No woman in her right mind will give
her husband permission to take a second wife. Such a condition, in fact, negates the
permission given by God in the Qur’aan.
10. Others have accepted polygamy on condition that it not be for “lust”. That is, if the
wife is ill, or unable to bear children, or unable to fulfill the husband’s sexual needs,
etc., taking a second wife is acceptable. Otherwise it becomes “lust” on the husband’s
part and is consequently not acceptable. The reality is that “lust” was involved in the
marriage of the first wife. Why is it acceptable in the case of the first and not the
second? As has already been pointed out, men are polygamous by nature. To try to
curb it by such conditions will only lead to corruption in society.
11. Feminists may object to this male right by insisting that women should also be able
to practice polygamy. However, a woman marrying four husbands would only
increase the problem of surplus women. Furthermore, no child would accept his or
her mother identifying the father by the “eeny meeny miney mo” method.
12. The question which remains is, “If God is good and wishes good for His creatures,
why did he legislate something which would be harmful to most women?” Divine
legislation looks at the society as a whole seeking to maximize benefit. If a certain
legislation benefits the majority of the society and causes some emotional harm to a
minority, the general welfare of society is given precedence.
SOURCE:- DR. BILAL PHILIP , BOOK OF DAWAH
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